Successful people understand that time is the one thing you can never get back in life. So why do we spent so much time doing things we know are not healthy for us? For each individual that answer can vary but we have all fallen victim to any of the following at one point or another. It’s time to stop being self-destructive and start implementing some positive alternatives to your existing poor habits.
Poor Habits – Staying in your comfort zone.
Positive Alternatives – Try something new. Learn to play guitar, listen to music you’ve never heard before or take up needlework. It doesn’t matter what it is so long as it’s something you’ve never done before. There is so many interesting things out there . . . find a new passion!
Poor Habits – Watching too much TV
Positive Alternatives – Stop being a passive participant in your life. Couch potato is not an attractive look. If you insist on being sedentary at least read a book, any book. Your mind will be far more active and stimulated.
Poor Habits – Allowing work to dominate your life.
Positive Alternatives – Time to do a serious evaluation of your career. Yes, you need income but you will have much better earning potential if you are doing something more aligned with your life priorities. Ask yourself, if money were no object, what job would I love to do. Then do some research on possible professions. You might be surprised how many previously unknown options exist.
Poor Habits – Dwelling on the past.
Positive Alternatives – You literally cannot change one single solitary thing about your past but that doesn’t mean it can’t impact your life. What you need is a monumental shift in your thinking. The past serves one function . . . knowledge. Learn from your past so you don’t make the same mistakes in your present or future. Never regret a past action, simply don’t repeat what did not bring you joy. And leave the past where it belongs . . . behind you.
Poor Habits – Taking care of yourself.
Positive Alternatives – If you take care of yourself you have more room for others. If you don’t take care of yourself why would anyone else. They have their own issues to deal with. Love yourself enough to care about your appearance, your attitude and your actions. Contributing positively to the universe starts with how you treat yourself!
Poor Habits – You are too hard on yourself.
Positive Alternatives – Self-reflection is vital but something’s wrong with your view of yourself if you keep beating yourself up. The more you try to fix something in your mind the more prevalent and powerful it becomes. We are what we think so stop being self-critical and start focusing on who you want to become. It’ll take work but successful, happy people focus on strengths, not weaknesses.
Poor Habits – You take everything personally.
Positive Alternatives – Studies show that humans spend about 90% of their day thinking about themselves and their issues. Do you really think they are spending the remaining 10% on you. A lot of people communicate through projection . . . what they say says more about them than you. Don’t take it personally. Instead see if you can help them in any way. Empathy with action can be impactful.
Poor Habits – The most physically active thing you do is lifting your fork.
Positive Alternatives – Ask anyone who is physically active about how they feel. Aside from the obvious health benefits of regular exercise there is mind-body connection that experiences the largest payback. Interesting to note . . . MIT has mandatory physical education requirements for all of its undergrads. A healthy body contributes to a healthy mind and vice versa.
Poor Habits – Not taking action where you can.
Positive Alternatives – Everyone wants positive change in their lives but actually taking action can be scary. So stat slow and in manageable areas. It could be as simple as cleaning up your room or going for a walk. Whatever it is, evaluate your current patterns and replace the non-productive ones with positive action. Eventually that will become your new pattern.
Poor Habits – You are convinced your life cannot change.
Positive Alternatives – Anyone that tells you that you cannot accomplish anything is lying to you. You may not become the best at anything but you can absolutely get better at anything. Not only can you change yourself but, as you take step-after-step in a forward position, that change will happen exponentially faster. Every positive thought, affirmation and action builds new neural pathways in your brain. Repeat the same positive thoughts, affirmations and actions often enough and they become who you are. Never give up, never surrender!
Poor Habits – You see yourself as a failure if you aren’t perfect.
Positive Alternatives – This is more common than you think, especially if you were raised in a well-meaning, but unrealistically high expectation, environment. Vince Lombardi, the legendary Green Bay Packers coach offered a wonderful way to view the ideal of perfection.
Poor Habits – You blame your problems on your difficult childhood.
Positive Alternatives – Nothing is more heartbreaking than an child who suffers. But you can’t let that dominate your life now. The more you think about your past the more powerful it becomes. Leave it where it belongs and replace it with who you choose to be. It won’t be easy but you can change your entire attitude and outlook on life. Your mind is far more powerful than you realize.
Poor Habits – You eat whatever you want, when you want.
Positive Alternatives – Discipline is difficult to maintain be itself. For anyone to change they must have a strong enough incentive to affect that change consistently. If you struggle to find this strength in yourself then try this . . . find someone you respect, commit to them your promise to stop eating junk food and start eating healthy. Hopefully your desire not to disappoint them is stronger than your impulse for unhealthy food.
Poor Habits – You are always blaming others for your issues.
Positive Alternatives – The day you grow up is when you go from blaming everyone else for your problems to taking it all on yourself. The Laws of Attraction are real . . . if you have a lousy attitude bad things will continue to happen to you. Conversely, if your attitude is positive you will attract positive things into your life. Take the first step today to a new you!
Poor Habits – Understanding what you can, and cannot, control.
Positive Alternatives – The only thing you truly have control over is your actions. Even your thoughts can, on occasion, not reflect who you truly are. You definitely have no control over the thoughts and actions of others so . . . stop trying. Honestly, what they think of you is none of your business, and vice versa. Bottom line is focus on what you can control and don’t waste time and energy on what you cannot.
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