We all encounter situations every day that frustrate us. Unfortunately some of those lead to anger, or even rage. Anger is not in and of itself a bad thing but it can make others uncomfortable and, if it persists or escalates, will not serve you well at all. It would be helpful to have a few anger management techniques at our fingertips to better deal in these situations.
- The worst time to think about anger is when it is happening.
- The best time to think about anger is when you are unobstructed and calm.
- Consider the outcomes you have encountered when you have been angry or enraged. Did your reaction bring about the results you were hoping for? How did you feel afterward . . . embarrassed or even more rage?
Be Proactive with Your Anger Management Technique
- Examine the things that tend to make you angry. How has your anger helped the situation? Did it change the outcome?
- The next time you get angry ask yourself . . . what am I really angry about?
- Consider that most of what angers us has nothing to do with the actual event but rather that event sparked an earlier painful memory, most likely from our childhood.
- Practice deep breathing routines, look into essence oils that are specifically for controlling anger and learn some positive affirmations.
Anticipate Your Anger Moments
- If you know what situations, behaviors, moments make you angry can you avoid them?
- Sometimes it is the people we surround ourselves with that create a toxic rage environment for us. They seem capable of always setting off our “triggers”. If you can remove them from your life, please do so.
- Remember, life is not what happens to us, but rather how we react to it.
Accept what You Cannot Control
- Quite often we get angry because we cannot control a situation . . . so stop trying.
- The powerful step in the 5 stage of grief is acceptance. The quicker you can get there the happier you will be.
If the Anger Moment is Unavoidable . . .
- Sometimes you get angry for no reason or without seeing it coming. What anger management techniques exists for that?
- If you have done much of what was introduced above your level of anger should be far more manageable.
- Whatever you do, do not escalate your emotions in the situation. If you remain calm it is for more likely that everyone will as well.
- If you feel your anger escalating into rage then step away. If you are able, then engage in some deep breathing routines.
Try these simple anger management techniques as a starter. Remember that you do have control over your actions. Ultimately that is what will separate you form others without good self-control. Don’t be reactive, be proactive and get in front of your anger and rage before it controls you.
Other reading that might be of interest includes:
- Beware the Path from Anger to Rage
- Forgive and Forget or How to Deal with Anger Issues
- 5 Foods Helpful for Controlling Your Anger
Categories: Controlling Anger